Codependency

Codependency

If you’ve spent your life taking care of everyone but yourself, this page is for you.

Codependency often hides behind qualities the world praises: being loyal, selfless, dependable, “the strong one.” But underneath, there’s usually exhaustion — a pattern of abandoning your own needs to keep someone else okay, of feeling responsible for other people’s emotions, of not quite knowing who you are outside of your relationships.

Common signs include difficulty saying no without guilt, staying in relationships that hurt you, an intense fear of abandonment, needing approval to feel okay about yourself, and trying to fix, rescue, or control the people you love. These patterns usually begin early — often in families affected by addiction, chaos, or emotional unavailability — where taking care of others was how you stayed safe or earned love.

How I can help

The good news about codependency is that it’s learned — which means it can be unlearned.

Together, we will:

Trace the pattern to its source. Understanding where your caretaking began removes the shame from it. It was an adaptation, and it made sense.

Rebuild your relationship with yourself. We’ll work on recognizing your own feelings, needs, and wants — many of which you may have silenced for years.

Practice boundaries that hold. You’ll learn to say no, tolerate the discomfort of others’ disappointment, and let people carry what’s theirs to carry.

Redefine love. Healthy love isn’t rescuing, managing, or losing yourself. We’ll work toward relationships built on mutuality rather than self-sacrifice.

You can care deeply about people without disappearing into them. Learning that difference changes everything.